When we're experiencing fertility challenges - whether they were known or unexpected - it's easy to point our finger to ourselves and say, "It's me." "It's my fault." "I'm broken."
But you and I know that's not true.
You're not experiencing infertility because you're too negative, you're broken, you're unlucky, you were a terrible person in your past life, because you ate too many fries in your 20s, because you waited too long, because you don't deserve to be a mother, because you might be a horrible mother if you ever did have a child.
None Of Those Things You're Telling Yourself Are True
The reality is that while we know a LOT about reproductive health, with a growing body of knowledge and research every year, we still have a long, long, long way to go to understand how human reproduction works, especially when assisted reproductive technology is involved.
That is an infuriating and frustrating thing to hear as a patient. "We don't know" is the last thing we want to hear when we are desperate to get pregnant.
Some hope
So here are 2 nuggets of hope I'd love to share if you are still in the trenches and trying to conceive:
1) As Dr. Aimee Eyvazzadeh said on Delivering Miracles, when you are diagnosed with unexplained infertility it doesn't mean we don't know what's going on. It means we haven't found it yet.
2) Deactivating your arousal system (aka your stress response) improves conception rates, even if you're doing IVF. Not by going on vacation or thinking more positively, but by resetting your nervous system.
It's not your fault
If you've been on the TTC journey for a while without a baby in your arms, keep searching for answers because they're out there.
But please know, whatever the answers you find, NONE of this is your fault.
What's your next step?
If you're serious about learning how to unlock your arousal system that's been stuck in the "On" position due to fertility trauma or traumatic loss, and ready to invest in your health, join my deeply personalized Path to Baby program.
I can't wait to speak with you!
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